But the truth is, I wouldn’t be who I am, or where I am in life if I didn’t share them with others.
Do you ever have these random thoughts that pop into your head, and wonder why more people don’t think or act the way you’re thinking they should? I do.
Do you get so bogged down in the daily garbage in your life, to the point where you feel like you’re just spinning your wheels and no one cares? I do.
Posts like this one typically only wind up in my newsletter, I’ll be honest with you. For some reason, I’ve always felt that there weren’t enough people to want to listen to when I needed to just “get it out”, so I always limited myself to the people who actually signed up for the “extra” content I send out in my newsletters. If you’re already a subscriber, you know the kinds of things I’m talking about. If you’re not, then maybe you’re missing out. Or maybe you’re relieved. Either way, I decided that today I was going to put it out there on the blog and see what happened.
Now, before you start thinking that this entire post is going to be about me complaining about how hard life is, please know that you couldn’t be more wrong. I know that life isn’t easy, and for that proverbial 99%, it can be especially rough. We all deal with family illnesses, money woes, job stresses, customer complaints, you name it. Sometimes it feels like it’s all coming down on your head at the same time, and no matter what you do or how positive you try to be – sometimes you’ve just got to let it all out and have a good cry. Or scream, even.
I just want you to know that I’ve been there, too. Recently, even. Especially when you’re in a business where money ebbs and flows, and sometimes you have excellent months and other times you wonder how you’re going to feed your kid or keep the lights on. I’ve been there.
The only nugget I can offer is that it does get better. I know it does, because after 16 years in this business, it’s happened to me. Will it get worse again? Probably. But I think I’m actually at a point where I’m able to have a little control over it, at least how I let it affect me. I wish the same for you. I want you to see that it takes time, it takes planning, it takes dedication, and it takes the will to believe without a doubt that you can make it work. Life, that is. Not just business, but everything.
I’ve been thinking about how our parents and grandparents did things. How they’d rarely go out to eat, and every Sunday was a big family meal. In my family, we’d have Sunday dinners at my grandmother’s house, followed by a game of cards, and lots of laughter and love spread all around. I LOVED Sundays.
My mom was amazing at being able to come up with dinner for three during the week, using just about anything she could find in the pantry and freezer. Sure, she could’ve said, “Hell with it, let’s get pizza,” but no… Pizza was reserved for Friday nights, along with a rented VHS tape. (Ha!) But the rest of the week was home-cooked.
I often find myself struggling with feeling like I never have time to do everything. But the big problem with that is that instead of trying to regain my day in smaller increments so I feel like I’ve accomplished something each day, I wind up wasting that time planning, lamenting, wishing… And then the next day doing the same thing. And the next day.
Instead, I’m aiming to set mini goals for myself so that I can have better control of my time. I’m going to take the time while my daughter’s at daycare to plan my night. I’m talking right down to the cooking of dinner and washing of dishes and bathing of my child. No, I’m not going to be inflexible, but I want to make sure certain things get done every day, and that’s how I’m going to do it. Sure… I’ll have to figure out how to entertain her while I’m doing things she’s still too young to help with, but that’s part of life, right?
It’s the same with work. I have so many projects on my plate, it’s not funny! Some are already paying projects, and those get my priority of course. But I need to make progress on the projects that will take over once the others are finished, so that I have a more consistent flow going. So again, it’s about scheduling time to do priority work on the future.
We’re NOT living in our parents’ or grandparents’ time. There’s too much technology and rushing and demand on our time and wallets to have things be that simple and routine. But there’s definitely something to it… simplicity. Make time to unplug, and make time to connect with your family, without worrying about anything else but the sound of your child laughing. Just make a plan and force yourself to realize that with a plan, you’re going to succeed. You just have to break things down and make it easy as you can for yourself.
I guess what it boils down to is that I really hate seeing people (myself, a guilty party) stress over things to the point where they lose touch with what’s really important. Yes, there will always be things that happen that will certainly make it tough to remain grateful and positive. But you have to remember that there will always be moments that deserve your appreciation and full attention without worry. Those are the things I think we all need to focus on the most.
I’m sure I sounded a bit rambly up there, and if so, I apologize. But if any of this resonates with you at all… I encourage you to share your thoughts and stories in the comments. This is a community, after all. We’re all in the same boat most of the time, and the connections we have to the world are what helps keep us going and focused on what’s really important in life.